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These are amazing! How this works:

-In all CAPS, write a non-newsy topic you’d like someone else to write about, e.g., THEORIES ON HEAVEN, THE NEGATIVE EFFECTS OF WATCHING PEOPLE FIGHT ON TV. It can be anything. This is for fun.

-Include your Substack URL and handle (@______).

-Find a topic in this thread you’d like to write about.

-Meet the person who wrote the topic and ask what they’d like to know.

-Write on that topic for your next post, mention the person if that feels right. (Use @______), and post it.

***I'm thinking I'll devote next week's Office Hours to sharing the results.

Even if you have an editorial calendar set, fit this one in. Substack is all about the network and pushing ourselves as writers. Imagine you just got a new assignment from your editor.

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This is such a fun idea!

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Great idea, Sarah! Thank you!

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Oh, I do like an assignment from an editor!

Thanks again, Sarah, for a fantastic take on ways we can all make this space increasingly more vibrant, connected, and relevant.

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What a great idea. I have an editorial calendar, but I'm in the planning stages for March/April and need some inspiration.

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Excited to match with new Writers!!!

Muchas Gracias 🙏🏼❤️ Sarah!!! BTW also Curious to know if anyone has tried posting their newsletter in multiple languages yet?

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No, but I was considering! I'm Lithuanian, but writing in English atm. <3

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I would be curious to know that too!!

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I write in English for language learners but include a glossary in Japanese for Japanese learners of English.

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Thank you! I think I got a little confused about the prompt and thought it was to exchange guests posts. Either way, a useful thread :-D

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Sarah, would love to see the results!

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My internal dialogue before this drops every Friday 💭 “I wonder what she will come up with this week! Could it be X or Y?”

And then you come up with this—Brava, for keeping this thread so fresh!

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What a generous opportunity for connection! Thank you!

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Totally! Thank you for hosting!

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THE BEST DAY/MEMORY IN YOUR LIFE WHERE NOTHING PARTICULARLY SPECIAL HAPPENED

https://williamkyd.substack.com/

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This is literally my new podcast 😂

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I have already written this a few years ago https://sixtyandme.com/6-ways-to-celebrate-the-simple-things-in-life/

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I loved this post, what a lovely day it was, filled with connection, love, friendship, and a sense of wellbeing and contentment. Thank you for sharing this!

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I love this and may take this one on :)

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I love this, what a wonderful thing to reflect on, how the ordinary can be so wonderful. It reminds me of something I wrote a few years ago, inspired by A Day in the Life by The Beatles, about the magic of the ordinary, the things we don't pay much attention to. I think I might use this a a prompt for my own writing, and would love to read yours!

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WHAT IS LIFE LIKE IN ADVERTISING WHEN YOU'RE PAST 40 AND YOU DON'T OWN THE COMPANY?

buhaycopywriter.substack.com

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DO OTHER KINDS OF WRITERS THINK ADVERTISING COPYWRITERS ARE SELL-OUTS, EVEN IF WE WRITE ON OUR OWN TIME (E.G. POETRY, A SUBSTACK?)

buhaycopywriter.substack.com

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Did you ever read this?

https://randeedawn.com/an-interview-with-dave-eggers-the-harvard-advocate-2000/

(Incidentally, I read it back when I was a copywriter)

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Thanks for sharing this, Ryan! Will definitely check it out. :)

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@marple POPULATION THEORY

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What do you mean by 'Population Theory'? The modern demographic decline?

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No I mean theories expounded by people such as Thomas Malthus which inform a lot of contemporary thought.

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Against him, or for him?

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Not promoting him but explaining the extent of his influence in the context of British history.

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TO SELF-PUBLISH OR TRADITIONAL PUBLISH YOUR FIRST BOOK

My substack is https://reidcox.substack.com/

@reidcox

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Hi Reid! I self-published my first book after successfully crowdfunding it on Kickstarter and have been documenting the process here on Substack. Happy to talk about what went into the decision to self-publish vs. traditional publish. Is there anything about the process you’d like to know more about in particular (i.e. querying, writing a book proposal, etc.)? https://open.substack.com/pub/shadesofgreaves/p/diary-entry-1-early-numbers?r=1xiwg1&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post

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Hey Carlos! That’s awesome you chose to self-publish! I’m mainly interested in what goes into the decision to self-publish over trying to go the more traditional route first but am also Interested in your game plan for launching and promoting

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Okay cool! Long story short, I started to go the traditional route but my book was a tough sell and I didn’t want to change the vision just to make it more marketable. So I crowdfunded the project instead so I could hire my own editor, cover illustrator and designer. But I can definitely go into more detail (and talk about the pros and cons) in a future Substack post!

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I'd read that too! (as long as it's funny...) ;)

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I’m interested in this too!

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I've done both and find both have benefits. With traditional you get amazing editors, a team to handle the logistics of printing and covers (what works / what doesn't) and potentially a lot more viewers. Non-traditional, you can make more per book so if you already have an audience financially this could be good. Trad publishing - Many expect for them to handle the marketing and most authors are disappointed. I already have a shop so I was used to launches and did a ton of work and this didn't bother me. If you are expecting them to bring you podcast interviews and opportunities, they will bring some but likely less than expected. For my last traditional published book, I found out THE DAY BEFORE that it would not be in stores and just sold online. Seeing in major bookstores was my big draw so this was like a dagger after 2 years of hard work. Trad publish you need to be ready to talk about a book for years. Self-publish, you can have a shorter timeframe. Also if it's super niche, self-publish is a better option in my opinion. Hope that helps! Just a lot of random facts but if you have specific questions let me know!

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Wow Valerie this is super helpful! Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I’d be super bummed too if I found out the day before a launch that it wouldn’t be in stores.

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Yes! They said my previous book sold so well online and covid complications, etc. I was all ready to go to the local B&N to check it out.

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Great resource, Carlos. Next time around, I doubt I’ll bother with an agent. My options will be self-publishing or a very small press that takes unagented mss. I have a shot at selling 1000 copies of my current book in its first year but publishers will not be competing for my next.

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This interests me too!

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vs publishing it as a serial here on Substack?

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Definitely want to read about this, as I’m currently hauling a first novel onto being!

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Yesss! Same here! After two master classes I’m still not sure.

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someone else had the same request for a topic and I'd like to read it too

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I've had several books published tradionally, and done several myself. I prefer the latter

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I'm both traditionally published and self-published - could totally wax on the topic. My 'stack is: https://annapulley.substack.com @annapulley

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Hi Reid. I have self-published 5 books. I'd love to share why I chose that over traditional publishing.

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How would you react if you discovered the truth that extra-terrestrials were indeed real? How would society react? What’s the worst and best case scenario you can imagine?

https://poetx.substack.com/

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Lots of books written about that :) My favorite are those who treat the situation like, "The Aliens are doing things I don't like, but that doesn't mean they are just evil and yucky." Like, Pilgrim by Dickson, or the Jao series.

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‘War of the Worlds’ by H G Wells is the classic book on this subject.

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When I was a kid and we would play the "what would you do if" game, I was always confused when people would say they would be so excited to wake up one day and be able to talk to animals. I think I took the question too literally... and my answer was always about how terrifying and earth-shattering it would be to experience that kind of reality shift. I think the same is true for extra-terrestrials!

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Might be hard to get a good story out of it, though, if the kid were so freaked out they couldn't continue with life.

I'm writing a time loop story and my character's first thought is, "I am not going to freak out and make everything super hard like every book I've read on the subject."

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i like your opening for this story. time travel & time loop freak here!

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Ah, so we could get into the various theories of time travel... how they affect the future... etc :)

Fun to collaborate sometime.

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A SERIOUS HISTORY OF RUSSIA AND UKRAINE

@Von

After the Putin interview, I would love to read a good dive into the history of that whole conflict from someone who is objective and knowledgeable.

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I might be able to contextualise that! And then write it.

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@mathewehert is an excellent historian

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Hi Von, Timothy Snyder at "Thinking About..." has written a lot about Ukraine and Russia, including a series titled "Making of Modern Ukraine." https://snyder.substack.com/

I believe he teaches at Yale, and is objective and knowledgeable.

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The “On the Media” midweek podcast this week tackled this exact thing. So good. Also, the journalist Anne Applebaum always has great articles on this. It’s her specialty.

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SELF PUBLISHING VS TRADITIONAL PUBLISHING & IS ONE OF THEM BETTER FOR YOUR BOOK?!

@kaylenalexandra.substack.com

I write an advice column 2x/month called Ask A People Pleaser- any relationships in your life that you need advice on? I’ll provide answers from the perspective of a recovering people pleaser, and I’ll provide tips based in emotional intelligence.

Did I do this right? 😅

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You will never please all of them all of the time so maybe not to try!

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Your article idea is helpful and might assist a friend.

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I'd like to read this one too (about self publishing vs traditional).

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I’d love to take a pop at this one. I’ve self published, but have others in progress that I would choose to follow the traditional route. I’ve done a lot of research and reading on this over the years. Is there anything in particular you wondered about or wanted answered?

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Hi Tara! Thank you so much for chiming in!! I’m leaning towards the creative freedom of self-publishing, but truly terrified of all the steps to actually get it ~done~. I feel like the safety of traditional publishing (and publisher logo) would make my work feel more legitimate… can you speak to any of this? Thank you SO much for your wisdom!! 💌

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I certainly can. I’ve made some notes already which cover this, so I’ll get writing and tag you next week 🙂

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Is it too soon to say I Love You? Can’t wait to read!! Subscribing now.

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🤣🤣🤣

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I could definitely write about this! I talk about this all the time with my coaching clients. What would like you like to know? What are you leaning toward and what's holding you back?

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Hi Heidi! I’m leaning towards self- publishing. I’m held back by the stone cold FEAR of all the millions of steps to get it done RIGHT. I also feel like people trust a traditionally published book more… so you feel that’s true?

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It used to be true. I don't think it's quite so true now. It's still tricky to distribute, market, and sell a self-published book. Many bookstores won't shelve them. But if you already have an audience or you have a specific niche, it can work.

There's definitely a learning curve though! I personally don't want to figure out all the steps either! I'll tag you if I end up writing this post :)

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Hi Heidi. I have self-published multiple books And there was definitely a learning curve with the first one. But it is definitely the preferred way for me in the kind of work I do and for what I want to use the books for. I want to know if you write the post as well!

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Roger that! I don't know when I'll get to it, but I'll tag you when I do :)

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I did not add my substack info correctly!

Here it is:

1. @K.Alexandra

2. Kaylenalexandra.substack.com

Clearly, technology & I go way back.

Thank you for any advice or insight you have here!

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I would also appreciate a post on this topic. Thanks!

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Hi K. I could write about this as well. I have self-published multiple books and would love to share why I chose this route.

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WHERE AND HOW TO PITCH (FUNNY) PERSONAL ESSAYS

shadesofgreaves.substack.com

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I’d like to read that as my writing has been described as ‘funny’! Amusing - not peculiar, just to explain.

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I'd like to read this one too! I'm not the person to write it though lol. I will watch this space to see who does!

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same! But Id love to read it.

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Love this!

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Hi - I have some resources on this, but I'm not sure you aren't already aware of what's out there... Is there a particular angle you're looking for?

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I’m specifically wondering what literary magazines and websites are friendly to personal essays that infuse humor (David Sedaris, Samantha Irby, etc.) It’s hard to figure out the voices of each pub and what they’re looking for when there are so many out there

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Great one, Carlos. I write a lot of humor and the market is just as fragmented as other types of writing. Most of the best humor sites (The Onion) are staffed and don't accept free-lance submissions.

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That’s been my frustration. The only niche that’s a little more straightforward seems to be short-form humor like what you’d find in Daily Shouts or McSweeney’s or Points in Case, which have open submissions but don’t accept personal essays

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I’d love to see that too

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@julievick writes about this all the time! She's great.

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Thanks, Heidi! Delayed response because I just saw this. I put together this post a while back:

https://julievick.substack.com/p/tips-on-writing-and-publishing-funny

But it sound like what Carlos is looking for is a little different. I remember someone putting together a list of lit mags that accept humor but it looks like that Medium post has since been deleted, but this old Twitter thread that may have some leads:

https://twitter.com/fivesouthlit/status/1464245248754741252

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Really want to read! Help us be more funny, Carlos!

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THE POWER OF BOREDOM or IN DEFENSE OF GETTING BORED QUICKLY

https://demarcation.substack.com/

@dizzyzaba

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I like this one! I think I’ll go for it next post! Thank you Dizzy!

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Hi Dizzy! I loved reading your first post (the Neopets journey hit hard!) and would love to take a crack at this as it’s something that’s been on my mind a lot lately. Please let me know if there’s anything in particular you’d like me to touch on / anything in particular you’d like to know about this thread :)

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I know there’s more than one answer here, but I’d be happy to take a pass at it. I’m currently recovering from a herniated disc and can do very little so I have experienced a lot of space for boredom.

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Mmmm, this is a good topic. I host a virtual Resiliency Circle as part of my paid Substack benefits, and some stuff about boredom + the page + creativity came up (quite spontaneously) last night. I wanna write about this, but I also wanna hear more from you!

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I'm looking for articles and accounts to follow that address ADHD IN ADULT WOMEN.

https://jennyedenberkmsed.substack.com/

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I'd love to read it too

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I see an increasing amount of adults, men and women in my practice with a varying degree of ADHD experience and can write about how this affects life and relationships. What aspect are you interested in reading about Jenny?

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And Tanya?

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I'd love to read relatable stories about other people's experiences. How come you can get to the age of 40, get your PhD, start your own freelance business, supposedly 'achieve' stuff but still feel lost when it comes to getting everything organized on school mornings and before kid bedtime.

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Also about things / strategies that help, beyond meds.

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Many elements of the topic interest me. But right now I'm particularly interested in the intersection between ADHD and OCD and/or Highly Sensitive People. And, ADHD in perimenopause and menopause. Thank you!

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The first post of my new Substack was about this (I’m 41 and was recently diagnosed) and I do plan to write more on the topic: https://lianahornyak.substack.com/p/new-year-new-brain

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Emily Farris has a Substack (and new book of essays) out about this: https://thatemilyfarris.substack.com/

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@Mika just got a diagnosis and is planning to focus on this

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This is one of the things I write about! Next week I'm writing about ADHD and sleep disorders in adult women!

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What would you like to know about specifically? Next week I was planning on writing about ADHD and sleep as part of my I Am Chaos series.

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Jenny find Sarah Conway, Mika and there are lots of other women with late diagnosed ADHD on Substack, I’ll try and remember their names too! 💛

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I write a newsletter about ADHD! I focus a lot on research as well as strategies and reflections on executive functioning more broadly. I can definitely work on some posts based on these topics!

https://adhdunpacked.substack.com

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Feb 16·edited Feb 16Liked by Sarah Fay

BEST SOCIAL MEDIA PRACTICES/RULES/BOUNDARIES FOR PARENTS OF TEENAGE KIDS.

our 14 year old twins have iphones, but don't have safari, snap, instagram, etc and they are begging for them and feeling "left out"

https://onmoneyandmeaning.substack.com/

@JAMESBAILEY1

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Feb 16Liked by Sarah Fay

I could write a very short article on that :)

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Is it going to sue the parents too? 😂

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I’m delighted they’re suing. I hope it has an impact.

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This is a national issue, I'd rather see congressional hearings continue and try to come up with regulatory action. It's becoming more urgent by the day.

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This is ridiculous, are they going to sue Dunkin Donuts for making everyone fat too?

Parents should take responsibility!

My post:

https://open.substack.com/pub/katedarracott/p/internet-safety-for-kids-that-works?r=1nkhs2&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&showWelcomeOnShare=true

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This subject is really resonating with me, as it really makes me angry when parents 'protect' their children from life rather than 'prepare' them for it.

Hmmmm, am quite tempted with this one. 🤓

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Kate - the protect vs. prepare is a wonderful distinction. Thank you.

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Wow, I may well have to write this piece anyway, even though I'm not a 'parenting' writer, I am a parent, albeit an empty nester.

This subject is a close one, so perhaps I can share what I have found to be highly effective in this regard.

My son signed himself up for a Facebook account at aged 8. I was not happy, but I did manage to deal with it in a way that led to him deciding to leave it alone for a few years, whilst equipping him with some vital tools to use when he embarked on the next social media experiment.

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How old are your kids?

Social media training should take place way before their teens, catch them earlier, when they're still listening to you. 😉

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they're 13 and will be 14 in May. They're still very close to us, fortunately, and oddly so. But my wife is of the mind that we should "protect" them by closing off all the bad stuff out there - at least as best we can. I come more from the "prepare" philosophy. Which is probably another essay - about how to resolve that difference :)

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That is tricky if you and your wife don't align. The kids are going to do it anyway, with or without your consent, so what I would do (and what I did) is sit them down and go through ALL the privacy settings of the particular platform they want to use. You will both learn a lot and their account will then at least be protected from the 'friend of friend' defaults that are usually selected so that the company makes more money. The more people share, the more Facebook/Snapchat etc make. This 2 hour technical session was enough to bore my son stupid at 8, and he went off the whole idea for a while, but your kids are nearly adults anyway, so you just need to make sure they know how to protect themselves and their data from strangers.

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PS: I'm 1,000 words into the post already, so full details will be available tomorrow, I would think! ;-)

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Thank you! Super helpful. I'm grateful for you.

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Have you read this one? My 13 year old is in the same boat - old iphone, no socials, kept begging for them - I read him this article and he finally understood where I was coming from https://www.afterbabel.com/p/algorithms-hijacked-my-generation?r=sfpr&utm_medium=ios&utm_campaign=post

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Thank you. I will read!

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I'm not sure there is a best answer to that. It depends on the relationship between parents and their kids. I tended to set lose boundaries, trusting their judgement, and for us it worked.

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I’m interested in writing on this!

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CANDIDLY FEELING GRIEF, RESENTMENT, AND OTHER UNDESIRED EMOTIONS ABOUT YOUR PARENTHOOD

https://www.circular.cheniece.co/

@cheniece

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Ooh, I like this! I'd love to read that article.

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Thanks! I would as well... Hopefully we'll be pleasantly surprised by a volunteer!

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Cheniece, do you mean about being a parent or about being the child of parents?

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I would love to read something like this. I have a special needs kid with complex health/mental health issues and the whole thing has hijacked the life I thought I'd live, so I definitely feel the grief and resentment at times. I do have an essay close to publishing that touches on this topic a bit more delicately - about the tension between Career and Kids and my mixed feelings, the highs and lows of trying to do both. But I don't plan to be QUITE as raw in the essay as I've been in my darkest moments.

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My two special needs kids are on the autism spectrum and have clinical complexities. I totally understand your valid feelings and their source. I'd love to read this essay, whenever it is published!

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I love this topic. I wrote a whole book on it. If I were to go back to that time period when my kids were little and I was feeling so many things, I would have so much more fun feeling "the undesirables."

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Wow, a whole book?

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Yes--it was called Recipes for a Beautiful Life. That wasn't specifically the topic, but I felt all those things on the page throughout the book. It was about raising two boys under the age of five while trying to write a novel and live a creative life. I also experienced a lot of beauty, but those feelings were all part of it. In my mind, that's the difference between happiness and joy--happiness is one feeling, joy contains everything.

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i want to red your book!

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Thank you so much Claire! You can! It's called, Recipes for a Beautiful Life. You can see a bigger description of it in the comment below. Thanks for your interest!

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Hi Rebecca, just shared my response to this, https://open.substack.com/pub/matthewsloane/p/grieving-life-before-parenthood -- curious what overlap you see in your book and what I wrote!

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Hi, Matthew! Just read it, thanks for letting me know. I loved your piece. There is a lot of overlap between this and Recipes for a Beautiful Life (the book I wrote). I remember one day when I was talking to my mother about how much I missed the woman was before I had children--and like you said in your piece--it wasn't that I didn't love my children or would have made different choices, but I missed the woman I was before children--who could walk out of her apartment in NYC, go to lunch with people she knew, and get a freelance job. I love that life, and I missed it. I liked being able to grieve what I'd lost and also enjoy what was coming in at the same time. I tend to feel like we're all all things at once anyway, so I feel like that version of me is still in there. But she WAS pretty dormant for a long time, and grieving that was essential to help the person I had been expand into what I am. I loved what you wrote and LOVE your illustrations. You've inspired me to do a post on this, too. Thanks for tagging me!

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Thank you, Rebecca -- I appreciate how common an experience this can be. And that it is part of a longer journey.

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I love this suggestion and it mirrors whispers I had percolating about my next newsletter. Just wanted to name gratitude for the idea and will report back and tag you if I run with it 💖

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Please do! I'll cross my fingers!

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Kaitlyn, what became of your percolation? I ended up making a post about this topic of grief as a parent re: parenting -- just shared it today, https://open.substack.com/pub/matthewsloane/p/grieving-life-before-parenthood

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Hi Matthew! I'll be jumping into yours later today. So glad you checked back in. Here is mine:

https://kaitlyntopolewski.substack.com/p/the-undesirables

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nice -- just saved your post for later too ; )

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I wrote something along these lines last june for father's day. A bit of regret and resolution. Thought peace. https://open.substack.com/pub/iamtsebastian/p/im-sorry-i-wasnt-a-better-dad?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=36ewx

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Excellent! I'm going to check it out!

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I left a comment too!

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Hi T -- just posted in response to this thread about parents grieving what they lost from before parenthood and wanted to share with you https://open.substack.com/pub/matthewsloane/p/grieving-life-before-parenthood

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I'm intrigued, Cheniece. When you say "Candidly feeling" do you mean being able to feel for yourself or being able to express or both?

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I mean it to be in the sense of feeling it for yourself. But I could appreciate both contexts in a piece of writing, for sure!

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I might take you up on this and want to know a bit more to build an appropriate bridge. I have questions but am happy to do this by email if you prefer, for privacy-sake (matt@matthewsloane.com)

1) what have you tried so far that isn't working for you?

2) what do you believe is getting in the way of feeling or expressing?

PS: I suspect I can relate and also share something useful.

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Be looking out for an email from me soon! From cheniece@cheniece.com

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I’m also sending you an email as well to confirm a few things 💖

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Hi, Cheniece. I've been working through writing my childhood and turning back to face and feel it all. It's led to some great connections between what I received and what I passed on as a parent, and gratefully, what I interrupted and didn't pass on. Key to me is the courage to look at it all - especially those painful emotions you describe. My stack focuses on healing, spirituality, recovery and creativity.

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Mine focuses on thriving even with these types of emotions and other parenting hurdles. I'm certain that your introspection and wisdom make your publication amazing to read. I'll check it out!

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Very kind, I'll check yours as well!

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So happy to have found your newsletter. I also live in Colorado and just did my Level 1 IFS training this week!

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Hi Mary, just posted in response to this thread about parents grieving what they lost from before parenthood and wanted to share with you https://open.substack.com/pub/matthewsloane/p/grieving-life-before-parenthood

I see overlap in your way of thinking -- "to look back" with courage. Thought you might appreciate it.

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You asked a good question. If it’s of any help I am in the process of writing healing poems this month. Five women requested poems to heal them from different things… I see that others to relate and find solace in the poems. Three published and two more on the way. Would poetry offer help?

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I'm sure it would have wonderful effects!

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I just posted in response to this thread about parents grieving what they lost from before parenthood and wanted to share with you https://open.substack.com/pub/matthewsloane/p/grieving-life-before-parenthood

Would love to see any poems you have created that touch on this topic. Can you share here?

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Feb 16·edited Feb 16Liked by Sarah Fay

THE NEUROSCIENCE OF LEARNING AND MEMORY AND HOW / WHETHER OUR EMOTIONS HELP US LEARN

https://tanyamozias.substack.com/

@tanyamozias

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Hi Tanya, I’ve already written about this so will let someone else take up the new challenge but wanted to link you to my post : https://open.substack.com/pub/bessstillman/p/remembering-things-that-havent-happened?r=16l8ek&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

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Hi Tanya, I speak about this often from the perspective of how anxiety impacts student learning in school, especially for neurodivergent students. Thanks for sharing this topic because now I’m inspired to write about it more! https://learnwithdremily.substack.com

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Thanks for sharing, Emily. I guess I meant more how we have to be emotionally engaged in the material we're learning for us to learn it better, and how when we're pushing on students (children and adults) learning materials that are boring / irrelevant to their lives, we're really not helping them learn. How when I am emotionally engaged (in the material or the topic, or maybe even with the teacher because of their charismatic personality), is there like an area in my brain that lights up and helps me learn? or something like that. But I think it ties in with what you're saying, that it's hard for students to be engaged in the learning process when they're anxious. I'd love to read whatever you write about any of these.

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Yes! All totally connected. We learn the most about this topic from autistic students who struggle to learn when something doesn’t feel relevant to them. We all feel this to some extent but engagement increases when we are interested in the topic or when we feel attuned to the teacher (this is rooted in secure attachment). There is a somatic alignment that happens in regards to student-teacher nervous system co-regulation that supports more effective learning. I would call this bottom-up learning and our education system is very top-down as in “here is the curriculum and you will learn it no matter what your emotional state is at this moment.” We can’t learn unless we feel emotional register, safe, and connected.

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